Help for Battered Men
Resources for battered men
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Are You Battered or Abused?
Why Men Don't Do Anything About It
Why Men Don't Get Help? A therapist also a victim of domestic violence answers.
What You Can Do
Washington Centers that Serve Men
Other Centers that Serve Men
On-line Help and Support
What is Abuse?
On-line pamphlet for men
The Male Victim
Ultra-Sensitive Men and Abuse
Borderline Personality Disorder
Washington Court Info
Overview DV order process; on-line forms
Latest Research Findings
Battered Men, Women Batterers
Violence Against Women SurveyFull Rpt.
National Violence Against Women survey (National Institute of Justice/Centers for Disease Control) estimates 1.5 million women and 835,000 men battered each year.
The risks men face
National Violence Against Women survey (National Institute of Justice/Centers for Disease Control) shows that assaults by women are dangerous. Assaulted men more likely than women to be knifed, hit with an object. A re-look at NVAW survey data. Bert H. Hoff
Violence Against Women SurveyLegal system response
For men: 13% reported, 1.6% arrests, no convictions, no jail time, 3.5% restraining orders.
Statistics Canada report
44% of DV victims are men. In current relationships men as more likely to be victims of domestic violence.
British Home Office report
Men as likely to be victims of domestic violence as women, according to a major British Home Office research study.
Exploding Myths about ER data
Data from NIJ, CDC refute myths that DV is leading cause of injury to women or causes more injuries than rape, auto accidents, and muggings combined. More than twice as many women
visit ERs due to being injured by an animal than by a male partner.
Controversy over DV by Women
Leading researcher Dr. Murray A. Straus critiques the recent National Violence Against Women Survey, offers insights into the "politics" of domestic violence and whether the controversy will ever end.
Why Women Batter
Dr. Martin Fiebert and Denise Gonzalez. It's about power and control more than reaction to abuse--same as for men. "He wasn't sensitive to my needs." "I wanted my partner's attention." "He wasn't listening."
College men nearly as likely to be victims of unwanted sexual coercion
So says a new study at the University of Washington. Here's the press release about it.
Men's Reactions to Female Sexual Coercion
One of the long-standing myths about sexual coercion is that a woman cannot make a man have sex with her.
Battered Men's Stories
Real men, real stories
in these men's own words.
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Perpetrators, Victims, Survivors
A woman seeks help for her own violence.
At first I would
switch off whenever I saw a report about domestic
violence. I knew I was about to be subjected to yet another pungent
vilification of men and their propensity to beat women."Hey, what about guys like me?".
It wasn't relevant that she has assaulted six men. "I beat the shit out of them." Hitting a tree head on would have freed my wife and children of the bastard that I was and left no trace of my miserable life.
Using the system to batter
Battering is emotional and psychological, as well as physical. It's about control, like using the system to impoverish him and keep him from the kids.
Restraining orders as abuse
Women routinely abuse restraining orders, says Cathy Young.
More women arrested
What does it mean? Experts quoted in the media differ sharply.
It's About People
835,000 men a year
according to latest National Violence Against Women Survey. One every 38 seconds.
It's Always His Fault
Yale psychiatrist Sally L. Satel. Gender polarization in perpetrator programs reflects feminist ideology.
Hitting below the belt
Easy to get, hellish to deal with,
restraining orders have become the ultimate weapon in domestic disputes, says Cathy Young in Salon.
Deadlier Than the Male
So says UK author Melanie Phillips, about violent women.
The Gender Neutrality Joke
Services only for women.
Blaming the victim
No excuse for violence, unless you're a woman, perpetrator programs teach.
Only men need pledge against violence.
Evaluator finds police largely unpersuaded by feminist perspective.
"I'm ashamed for what I did ...
Gender Focus on Men Hurts Women
Maybe if TV star Phil Hartman's wife had received help, she wouldn't have killed him and herself. But battering women are told they're the victim.
I'm Ashamed for What I Did
Detroit News Spotlight on the Female Abuser
Radical feminists agree
that women's experiences are trivialized. Suzanne Steinmetz.
What About the Women?
How Many Domestic Violence Awareness Advocates Discriminate Against Women. Phil Cook, author of Abused Men
Unwanted sex, Assault
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Lies by Omission:
WA DV Coalition Gender-Polarizes a People Issue
The Faulty Duluth Model
What's Wrong with the Duluth Model?
Blame and shame, not help. Ideology, not science. Ignores drinking, drugs, pathology, violence by women. One cause, one solution. Taught by "wounded healers." Gender-polarizing-perpetrates the "battle of the sexes"
A Gender-Neutral Duluth Model
For female perpetrators - a different "Duluth Model."
Insult to Injury
Book: Women's aggression part of picture; Restorative justice, not blame and shame
Duluth Model Successfully Challenged
Programs gets North Carolina regulation mandating Duluth Model set aside
It's Such Bullshit
Anger Management for Men is Such Bullshit. It made me suicidal
It's About Male Oppression of women
preaches the "Duluth Model."
Cathy Young. Where there's mutual violence, joint counseling offers the best solution. But it's not allowed.
Why Women Batter
"He wasn't sensitive to my needs." "He wasn't listening."
DV as a "hate" crime
Cathy Young. Proposed Federal Hate Crimes Act would add penalties if men abuse. It's already happened in 17 states.
The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence
Phil Cook, author of Abused Men
Domestic Violence: A Two-Way Street
Familial violence by and against both men and women is a serious problem in a violence-wracked America, but it is a problem for which both men and women share responsibility.
She hits, he hurts: Women batter men
Kathleen Parker, Orlando Sentinel
Are feminists fudging to protect coveted funding? It seems only fair we should listen to men too.
Working with Violent Women
Erin Pizzey, founder of the first modern battered women's shelter in the world.
No excuse for domestic violence. Period
Cathy Young. The Detroit News series on battered men generated a flurry of mail. Cathy Young wrote a column about the responses.
Prone to Violence
Erin Pizzey's book on violent women, the one for which she and publisher received death threats.
Super Bowl Sunday myth
The real story.
In the Media
Press coverage on battered men and violent women.
Ireland Ahead of US
Check out Battered Men: An International Concern
Related: Sex Abuse Survivors section.