The Faulty Duluth Model
The "Duluth Model"
Power and Control Wheel
A version for female perpetrators.
Domestic violence is a people problem, not a gender issue. Women are hurt by not getting the batterer treatment they need.
The "Duluth Model Power and Control Wheel" attributes domestic violence to male oppression of women. This is gender-polarizing, as we point out in the MenWeb article What's Wrong with the "Duluth Model"?. MenWeb has expanded on a model Tom Graves has developed, one he calls an inverted model, designed for female perpetrators and homosexual male perpetrators of domestic violence.
(for: heterosexual females, homosexual males)
Control and abuse (destructive) Equality (constructive) Using coercion and threats Negotiation and fairness - making and/or carrying out threats - seeking mutually satisfying to do something to hurt him resolutions to conflict - threatening to leave him, to - accepting change commit suicide, to report him to - being willing to compromise welfare - making him drop charges - making him do illegal things Using intimidation Non-threatening behaviour - making him afraid by using looks, - talking and acting so that he feels actions, gestures safe and comfortable expressing - smashing things himself and doing things - destroying his property - abusing pets - displaying weapons (such as knives) Using economic abuse Economic partnership - preventing him from getting or - making money decisions together keeping a job - making sure both partners benefit - making him ask for money from financial arrangements - giving him an allowance - taking his money - not letting him know about or have access to family income Using emotional abuse Respect - putting him down - listening to him non-judgmentally - making him feel bad about himself - being emotionally affirming and - calling him names understanding - making him think he's crazy - valuing opinions - playing mind-games - humiliating him - making him feel guilty Using gender privilege Shared responsibility - treating him like a servant - mutually agreeing on a fair - making all the big decisions distribution of work - acting like the 'mistress of the - making family decisions together house' - being the one to define male and female roles Using isolation Trust and support - controlling what he does, who he - supporting his goals in life sees and talks to, what he reads, - respecting his right to his own where he goes feelings, friends, activities and - limiting his outside involvement opinions - using jealousy to justify actions Using children Responsible parenting - making him feel guilty about the - sharing parental responsibilities children - being a positive non-violent role - using the children to relay model for the children messages - using visitation to harass him - threatening to take the children away Minimising, denying and blaming Honesty and accountability - making light of the abuse and not - accepting responsibility for self taking his concerns about it - acknowledging past use of violence seriously - admitting being wrong - saying the abuse didn't happen - communicating openly and truthfully - shifting responsibility for abusive behaviour - saying he caused it
Note: adapted from the original Duluth Wheel by laying out the text out in a tabular rather than circular format, and inverting gender-specific language.
What's Wrong with the Duluth Model?